EP 27

WITH Abby Davisson

Communication In Relationships: The Keys To Effective Communication

In today’s episode I am joined by Abby Davisson. Abby has dedicated her career to helping others achieve their goals! With Stanford professor and labor economist Myra Strober, Abby wrote Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions, a research-backed guide to making the choices that matter most. The book contains data, stories, and a flexible framework to help people navigate high-stakes choices when money and love are involved (hint: that's all the big ones in life). Most recently, she spent nine years at global retailer Gap Inc., where she served as president of the Gap Foundation and co-founded the company’s employee resource group for parents. Her expertise in career development comes from serving as an alumni career advisor and coach at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business. Her professional experience also includes strategy roles at Net Impact, Tipping Point Community, the NYC Department of Education, and The Bridgespan Group. Abby has a BA from Yale and an MBA and MA in Education from Stanford University. She lives with her husband Ross and two sons in San Francisco, where she remains in relentless pursuit of the best-tasting dark chocolate.

Communication In Relationships: The Keys To Effective Communication

Key Points

Myra Strober’s class on Work and Family inspired Abby to co-write the book after realizing its transformative impact on her own life.
A framework with the 5 Cs (Clarify, Communicate, Consider, Choose, Commit) can guide decision-making.
Early discussions about financial goals and values can prevent misunderstandings and assumptions.
Effective communication is an ongoing process, not a one-time event.
Clarifying your goals is crucial and sets the foundation for successful decision-making.
Successfully navigating these transitions leads to greater intimacy and a stronger bond.
Recognize the significance of making intentional choices in all aspects of life.

Best Quotes

In this episode you’ll learn:

04:17 – 04:30 “If you go into that arrangement by having open and honest conversations about how you are going to combine your lives, your careers, your ambitions, your finances, the household chores, childcare… those negative outcomes go away.”

12:52 – 13:00 “Your financial success is something that so many people really believe that this is how they’re judged.” (

15:44 – 15:50 “The more you talk about it, the more prepared they are for these types of conversations.”

23:02 – 23:09 “When we’re in the throes of a big decision, we tend to think in very binary terms. But there are so many options in between.”

35:07 – 35:12 “It’s always funny to me when I’m consulting or advising or standing on a stage with where I’m coaching advisors and I’m like, Hey guys, gals, whatever it is, it is so different than what people think.”

56:47 – 56:56 “It’s about not just sliding into the lives that we’re having, but really deciding what do we want those lives to look like?”

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So, you’re trying to do it all. Sometimes, you’re soaring on success.
And sometimes, it all flat out sucks.

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Yes, these conversations will be about Wealth, Productivity, and Influence.
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ABOUT

SCOTT DANNER

Scott Danner is a champion of high performers — and those who strive to be the best version of themselves.

A CEO, entrepreneur, coach, consultant, and LIFE Optimization specialist, he is the author of the Amazon best-selling book Freedom Street. He hosts the podcast The High Performance LIFE for high performers in any profession.

As founder & CEO of Freedom Street Partners, Scott knows firsthand what it takes for entrepreneurs to serve their clients and make an impact in their communities while also ensuring their own freedom and happiness.

Although a high income is often the by-product of success, Scott encourages high performers to focus first on L.I.F.E. (an acronym representing love, impact, faith and energy), and understand that, from there, the money will follow. He believes we all can make a greater impact when these four critical components of our lives are focused on and in symmetry.

Scott is the cofounder of the Chesapeake Virginia Wine Festival, which has donated more than $2.5 million to local charities. He and his wife, Adrienne, a kindergarten teacher, have two teenaged sons.

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The HPL Podcast is a wide ranging conversation about things that I didn’t expect but when we take apart this notion of LIFE, as love, impact, faith and energy, it’s well worth your time!

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Communication In Relationships: The Keys To Effective Communication